Sex In San Diego: If This Isn’t Porn What Is It?

by on October 18, 2012 · 2 comments

in Culture, Editor's Picks, Sex in San Diego

By A feleségül

Many times over the past several years, I have read about people responding to ads on craigslist.com only to find themselves in positions that have caused death, robbery, rape, etc.

I decided to do a little research and find out what I could regarding this horrific statistic.  When I went to the craigslist.com site, there were so many individual listings – nine headings with more than 100 sub listings – that I decided to focus in on only one – Personals. There were nine sub-titles under this listing, and I will not discuss all of them, but for interest purposes the subheadings are Strictly Platonic, Women Seek Women, Women Wanting Men, Men Wanting Women, Men Wanting Men, Misc. Romance, Casual Encounters, Missed Connections and Rants and Raves.

The Strictly Platonic requests were pretty much on the level: someone to hike today, handyman, buddies, etc.  “Women Seek Women” was a little risqué – very horny, hot sexy blond; Big girl looking for fun; Seeking princess to please her queen, etc.  In the Women Wanting Men section the responses were rather mild; looking to settle down; looking for my new best friend, etc.  The Men Wanting Men was explicit — pictures and images abounded. I was not interested in looking at men’s penis’ so I skipped that section. Misc. Romance had the fewest number of seekers, only 52 and it, too, was mild.  Older ladies wanted; married couple seeks married couple for fun and games; Curious about bondage? 

Missed Connections seemed the most legitimate where in people were thanking people for doing something helpful – thanks for watching the baby while I tried on a new dress; thanks for helping me move, etc. “Rants and Raves were just that  – rants and raves about everything and anything.  One of my favorites was a short saying – “Religion is like a Penis; fine to have one; fine to be proud of it;  But please don’t whip it out in public and start waving it around and please don’t try to shove it down my children’s throats!”

The section entitled Casual Encounters was something else again. After reading many of the requests I walked around with an erection for hours — and I am a woman! Some of the vocabulary meant absolutely nothing to me – until I looked it up on  Urban Dictionary. Men were looking for “DTF,” “NSA,” “DDF” and many had a friend named “Tina” or wanted a 420.  There were requests to “just do me”; “smart girls needed for an orgasm” – what, dumb girls don’t need orgasms? — “younger man wants older woman,” “squirter wanted,” “I love eating pussy – you don’t have to do anything,” “regular oral service 2-3 times a week,” etc.  I was very tempted to call the person that offered a full body massage so he could practice using his fingers – free – and what a great relaxation for women.

And the pictures! Wow! I didn’t look at the Men Wanting Men section because as much pleasure that a penis can give, it sure is an ugly appendage.  But the pictures in the Casual Encounter  section were as varied as each cloud in the sky.  There were pictures of big ones, long ones, fat ones, uncut ones, cut ones, hard ones, ones that had just had an orgasm – you get the picture!  And then the pictures of the man eating the woman; the man screwing the woman; the woman wanted who could “tittie-fuck” the man; men wanting a woman for bondage; the man wanting to be spanked; tied up; urinated on; etc. There were requests for women that had their period; requests for pregnant women; requests for women who wanted to get pregnant; requests for women that only wanted anal sex; requests for nursing mothers — and the list went on and on and on. And besides the pictures, there are images of just what will be done to you in slow and/or fast motion.  My God!

No one knowing me would ever call me a “Prude.” I am probably as open minded as anyone I know.  But in today’s society, where STDs abound, AIDS is everywhere and HIV is rampant, how can anyone go to this site and randomly select a one night stand?  What is so wrong with our society today that this behavior is encouraged?  Under this one particular heading, there are 100 requests on a page and there are 25 pages! They are listed by dates. For today’s date there were 47 listings, and all current — “Cum over and watch the Charger game”

The very first words you read when you go to craigslist.com Casual Encounters is a disclaimer:

  1. I am at least 18 years old.
  2. I understand “casual encounters” may include adult content.
  3. I agree to flag as “prohibited” anything illegal or in violation of the craigslist terms of use.
  4. By clicking on the links below, I release craigslist from any liability that may arise from my use of this site.

So what does the disclaimer say? You’re on your own, babe. If you are adventurous enough to hook up with one of the requesters, you have no recourse.   Good luck.

With 2,500 ads, I can’t help but wonder how many respondents there are. How many are legitimate? Many of the men advertising say no “web cams,” “no spam,” or they instruct the respondent to place key words in the subject line so they know it is for real.

What an experience this research was for me.  Check it out. But just for sexual titillation.  Don’t answer the ads. Please. Unless you are planning on doing your own blow by blow – yeah, that’s asked for too – research.

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avatar poet's surprise October 19, 2012 at 3:06 am

Who hasn’t looked at craigslist by now? That’s the free one, so it gets all the cheapskates and then the people who pay on other sites as well. The world is on craigslist. If you haven’t looked, take a gander at the cities worldwide. Probably over 100 countries, and numerous cities in most of those countries. Even Dalian, China has a craigslist, in case you’re interested.

What made me chuckle is that the writer said “curious about bondage” was a mild topic. That says a lot about the open-mindedness the writer claims! Craigslist is a window into the world as it really is. We see what people really think, want and do. Pretty wretched. I think of myself as very open-minded, and then I peruse craigslist and feel like a church lady. Craigslist is a perfect data pool for sociological, anthropological or psychological study. The nice thing is that everyone’s email addresses are protected, so it’s all hanging out there and the individual chooses their own poison. Problem is, this much freedom is too much for many folks. I want to lick your panties…pleeeeease!

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avatar Frank Gormlie October 19, 2012 at 11:00 am

Frank and Patty found each other on Craigslist Rants.

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