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Teenage Girls Increasingly Requesting Labiaplasty to Get the Perfect Designer Vagina

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Very young women are going under the knife to sculpt parts that are still growing and changing.

By Kali Holloway / AlterNet

Never underestimate the power of beauty myths to manufacture inadequacies where before there were none. A little over a decade ago, labiaplasty—the partial or wholesale removal of parts of the labia minora, aka the inner vaginal lips—was a relatively obscure plastic surgery, compared with nips, tucks and lifts to various other parts. In more recent years, the number of women opting for the surgery has grown exponentially. Now very young women—girls still in their teens—are requesting the procedure in numbers growing so quickly that even some practitioners are concerned.   [Read more…]

What’s Behind America’s Unusual Fixation With Large Breasts

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Well-endowed women have to put up with all sorts of bizarre assumptions.

By Carrie Weisman / AlterNet

In 1995, cultural anthropologist Katherine Dettwyler wrote a book called Breastfeeding: Bicultural Perspectives. Her research took her to Mali, West Africa, where she attempted to explain the western eroticization of breasts. Those she fell into conversation with regarded the behavior as “unnatural,” even “perverted.” They seemed to have a hard time believing that “men would become sexually aroused by women’s breasts, or that women would find such activities pleasurable.”

Years earlier, anthropologist Clellan Ford and ethnologist Frank Beach conducted a study of 191 cultures. The pair found that breasts were considered sexually important in only 13 of those cultures, and of those, just nine preferred large breasts. If you’re reading this from Anywhere, America, you might join me in assuming the U.S. was one of them.   [Read more…]

Let’s Ban Erections

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A response to Senator Lindsey Graham’s latest abortion proposal

By Judi Curry

I am tired of men – and stupid women – telling me what I can do – or not do – with my body. In the readings I have done I have never come across anything telling me that the legislature – or the Supreme Court for that matter – were appointed GOD (s) and until they can prove to me that they are the Superior Being, it is time that we women exert our own power to ban the very cause of fetuses – namely the ERECTION.

This is what I propose: Every time a man has an erection not for the purpose of conceiving a child, that penis be cut off. (The conception of a child must be agreed to by the female partner.) The removal must be done by a female mid-wife, female nurse practitioner, or the female receptionist at the front desk. If none of these are available, then it is permissible for the woman that caused the erection to remove it any way she sees fit. This does not have to be done in a licensed hospital; in fact, a back-street alley is preferable. I don’t think that a hanger would work to well, so maybe a dull knife that has not been sterilized would be the weapon of choice.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: Hate to Break It to You, But You’re Probably a Slut

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Being a slut is not a bad thing. Is it time to wear it as a badge of honor?
By Anabelle Bernard Fournier / Kinkly

Are you a woman? Do you have sex?

If you answered “yes” to these two questions, then someone, somewhere, thinks you are a slut.

According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a slut is “a slovenly or promiscuous woman.” Of course, it’s a derogatory word. It’s meant to be an insult: “You’re a woman who’s having lots of sex! You’re dirty and a terrible person!” But these days, the word is so liberally applied that any woman who dares to speak about being a sexual person can be slapped with that label almost automatically.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: The War on Sex

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By William A. Collins / Other Words

Abortion, condoms,
Things that vex,
Those who would
Prohibit sex.

Fewer American teens are getting pregnant and the national abortion rate is falling. Time to break out the champagne and the bananas flambé, right?

But many religious zealots aren’t celebrating these numbers, which reflect a reduction in the number of traumatized young women and impoverished moms. According to these fervent religionists, no one, especially not the young, should have sex at all — unless they are trying to make babies.
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Sex In San Diego: ‘Revenge Porn’ Outlawed in California as Governor Signs Bill

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The anti-revenge porn bill makes it illegal to post naked pics of someone else without their consent.

By Jodie Gummow / Alternet

Exes beware! Before you think about posting naked pics of your former lover following a bitter breakup, you better think twice…

This week California Governor Jerry Brown signed Senate Bill 255, making it a misdemeanor to post identifiable nude photographs of another person online without their permission with the intent to cause emotional distress or humiliation. Doing so will now be punishable by up to six months imprisonment and a $1,000 fine, AP has reported.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: Asexuality 101 — The invisible orientation

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By ApostleOfCarlin / Daily Kos

I’ll come out of my closet and state up front that this is a topic close to my heart, because I am asexual. No, I don’t reproduce through mitosis. I simply don’t experience sexual attraction to the same sex or to the opposite sex.

I have not spotted much in the way of discussion … on asexuality, though I’m glad to see there’s a lot of support here for the LGBT* community in general. I thought I’d be helpful and post a little introduction to asexuality, also known as the Fourth Orientation.
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Sex in San Diego: Unveiling the ‘Madonna-Whore’ Complex

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How one of the most common, yet misunderstood, male sexual dysfunctions can rip relationships apart.

By Jody Gummow / Alternet

“Where such men love they have no desire, and where they desire they cannot love,” Sigmund Freud wrote back in 1925. The founding father of psychoanalysis coined the Madonna-whore complex – a condition whereby men view women as either saintly, virgin Madonnas or sexual “whores.”

In essence, the effect of Madonna-whore on a relationship is an inability of the man to maintain sexual arousal within a committed, loving partnership. In his psyche he categorizes women into two groups: women he can admire and women he finds sexually attractive; the former he loves, the latter he devalues.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: How Body Image Issues Can Ruin Your Sex Life

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From Huffington Post

Does bad body image lead to bad sex? Quite possibly.

“Nothing kills the mood quite like being negative about the way you look,” HuffPost Live host Caitlyn Becker said during a Sept. 11 segment on how body image affects women’s sex lives.

Sarah Jenks, founder of life coaching and weight loss organization Live More Weigh Less, explained that many women’s body concerns get in the way of their pleasure in the bedroom. “A lot of us believe that if we lose 20 pounds, that’s when we’ll finally feel sexy,” she said. But of course, feeling sexy has much more to do with your state of mind than your weight.

Emotional eating expert Isabel Foxen Duke recommended that women whose self-esteem affects their sex lives ask themselves: “Is this about an underlying self-doubt that has nothing to do with my weight?”   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: I Was Asking My Wife for a Vow of Celibacy

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By Pete Beisner / The Good Men Project

Author’s lack of a sex drive almost cost him his marriage, but he couldn’t let his wife go without doing everything he could to win her back.
My wife and I are in a sexual time-out. That is my polite way of saying that right now I would rather do the dishes than make love to her. This isn’t about my wife, as much as she sometimes wants to make it about her so that she can fix it. The most beautiful woman in the world could show up right now ready to fulfill my wildest sexual fantasy, and I would say, “Eh, there is some leftover pasta in the fridge. I am going to heat some up. Want some?”

Why am I telling you this? I believe that our ideas about marriage are distorted by how little we hear about the true inner workings of functioning marriages.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: Marriage Is For Liars

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By Dr. Kelly Flanagan

We stand together on the marriage altar, and we begin the most important relationship of our lives with a terrible lie. We say, “For better or worse.” But we don’t really mean it.

If we were to be honest with ourselves, if we were to begin the marriage authentically, most of us would say, “I have a bunch of needs which have never been satisfied in my relationships. Today, in front of our friends and family, I’m publicly gambling that you will be the person to finally meet those needs. If you do, I will be happy, and I will try to make you happy. If you don’t, well, God help us…”

Not so long ago, as my wife was ambushing me with her brilliance and her beauty and our kids were still beyond imagining, I was a young, eager, graduate student and researcher at Penn State University. And I was determined to unearth the secrets to marital bliss. More than one hundred couples participated in my dissertation research, and I watched hundreds of hours of videotaped arguments between spouses who had been married for less than a year.

And I was shocked by what I observed.   [Read more…]

Sex in San Diego: A Brief History of Sex Dolls

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It’s difficult to imagine anything other than a crusty, inflatable, creepy-looking … thing when picturing a sex doll in the mind’s eye. A likeness to the figure in Edvard Munch’s The Scream, though slightly more unsettling if that’s even possible.

But sex dolls actually have quite an interesting history, reaching back as far as 8 A.D. with the myth that Pygmalion obsessed over a woman he sculpted from ivory so much so that Aphrodite eventually made her real. In the 1940s, Adolf Hitler and Heinrich Himmler devised the “Borghild Project,” which involved the production and shipment of sex dolls to German soldiers in an effort to lure them away from diseased French prostitutes.   [Read more…]

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