My first introduction to Rugby was when my grandson-in-law, Ben, sent me a picture of him with the blackest eye I had ever seen after winning a Championship Rugby match in Australia. Having all daughters I was almost sickened by seeing this handsome man’s face marred by a “shiner” so large that it almost obliterated his face.
When, five years later, my 17 year old granddaughter informed me that she was going out for the rugby team with the San Diego Young Aztecs (SDYA) my first thought was of Ben and all the cuts, scrapes and bruises he had during the rugby season. (I shouldn’t have been surprised at Molly’s choice. Her Aunt Lynn, my middle daughter, was the first female on the Water Polo team out of Pt. Loma High many years ago.) Still, the remembrance of Ben’s pictures was at the forefront of my mind.
The San Diego Young Aztec Rugby Club was started by its visionary founder Nevin Kleege. He had a dream about starting up youth rugby, in a meaningful way, here in San Diego. Seven years ago six children showed up to practice, and today they serve over 600 children (from 5-19 years old) in our community.
They currently have a youth club league, a high school program including players from 12 high schools, and have just in the last year, introduced rugby for girls!
They have come a long way since their humble beginnings, but the vision to grow, and spread the word, has not faded. The roster of players comprises a very diverse group … what binds them is the brotherhood, and now sisterhood, of being a rugby player.
One of the goals of the San Diego Young Aztecs is to introduce the sport to the youth of San Diego County with an emphasis on safety, camaraderie and sportsmanship where the teaching of fundamental skills, strategies and tactics of rugby are emphasized with a focus on inclusion and participation. They have found that by “combining the joy of rugby with an emphasis on commitment, effort, respect, honesty, sportsmanship and a sense of community, they are making a difference in the lives of many boys and now girls.”
Their own literature says that, “the sense of belonging to a worldwide community is real and will stay with the players throughout a lifetime.” The decision to return rugby to the 2016 Olympics has had the effect of promoting rugby as a positive, healthy, youth sport.
There are currently two girl Rugby teams under the SDYA umbrella. One is in Mira Mesa and the other is in Point Loma. These are not “school” teams; rather, they are SDYA club teams. And Rugby is not restrictive in their team members. Everyone can play regardless of their experience, shape or size.. overweight, underweight, and every body type in between will find a place on the team. (I would also like to point out how feminine the team looks – there is no set “look” about female rugby players.)
Rugby is truly a team sport. There cannot be a “star” of the team because each person is working as a team member. If a try (score) is made it isn’t because the player is so far superior to the other players; it is because that player was in the right place at the right time and the other team members made certain the play could be made. It is interesting to note that that “most valuable” player of the game gets to wash the shirts of the team members, because the whole idea is to serve the team.
What other team sport thinks it is an honor to wash the uniforms of the other team members?
The rugby world are family. They welcome the competitors with open arms, warm smiles, a desire for a strong competitive match on the field, and serve a friendly meal and a cold drink afterwards. They offer respect and gratitude for a match well played. After all is said and done, the boots are off, the players showered, and the next practice taking shape, the Young Aztecs will be remembered for 3 things after every match:
. Fierce, unyielding effort on the pitch
. Dedication and loyalty to teammates and family
. The confidence to achieve anything they desire.
It is difficult to watch a rugby match without finding your heart in your mouth. With the exception of mouth guards, there is no other protective gear. In the game one cannot tackle a player above the shoulders or head, but sometimes this does happen and a penalty is called.
It is interesting to note that Rugby has less injuries than football, soccer or even cheer-leading! The game itself has few rules, (called laws in Rugby): action does not stop until someone scores, the ball goes out of bounds or a law is broken.
A good rugby team or side, as it is called, will respond instantly to a number of defensive and offensive situations, each member of the team moving independently within his role, but collectively for total effect. I am not going to discuss the rules of the game here but suffice it to say that it is a rugged, energetic game that has few, if any breaks during play.
When I asked my granddaughter what she liked so much about Rugby, her answer was not what I expected. She said: “Rugby is like family and friends. It doesn’t matter if it is an opposing team or not; after the game you want to go up to all of the players; hug them and congratulate them for a game well played.”
She said that the amazing support and help that she gets from all of the players makes her feel good. She loves the people and the sport. “Everyone wants to help each other.” She says that even though she is on the swim team and cross country teams, the feeling of rugby is one of love and she wants to see everyone successful. She said that probably the best part of the game is that “everyone respects each other.”
A comment made by an involved Mom is worthy of reading: “ The girls have really embraced the community and have, in turn, been welcomed with open arms and much love by all. We still have a way to go, as it can be hard to schedule games close by and finding teams to play can be the biggest challenge …but that is what happens when you pave the way. These girls are breaking the barrier; they are brave, fearless, strong, smart, heartfelt and feminine from the tops of their heads to the tips of their toes! It has been my pleasure and honor to know each and every one of them. These young women are truly an inspiration.”
You might be interested in reading some of the things the Aztec Rugby girls have said about their feelings as a team member :
Tyana
“Most of the time I hate to show emotion, but sometimes I just have to share. The Youth Aztec Rugby team is not just an amazing club to be a part of, but also one of the best programs to ever come along. I have made friends with some of the most amazing girls, even though we have beat the crap outta each other on the field. I couldn’t have asked for a better team, coaches, and enormous support system from parents and the rugby guys. I am thankful for my stupidity to join, because it has been one of the best experiences of my life.”
Alex
Attention: To everyone reading this: it is not too late to join our family! We can always use girls of all shapes and sizes and scaredness levels. No experience needed no matter what school you go to!
For more information about the San Diego Young Aztecs RFC,
please contact:
Nevin Kleege at 619-843-5627 or nevin@kleegeindustries.com or
Dave Bernard at 858-945-0708 or davebernard@san.rr.com
Practice and home games are held at Dusty Rhodes Park, right off of Sunset Cliffs.
About ten years ago I was living with three South African roommates (San Diego seems to thee destination that many white South Africans immigrate to), and they got me hooked on this sport and I love watching it. They themselves were avid touch rugby players (rugby’s equivalent to touch football) and I did in fact play a few games and to say it’s exhausting would be an understatement. I can only imagine playing the regular tackle version. I think it’s the most exciting team sport to watch and for the life of me I don’t understand why it’s not more popular in the US. And you are very correct about the after game comradery. Even at the highest professional levels of both Rugby Union and Rugby League it is tradition that the two teams get together and share a cold beer after the match at a near by pub. Can you imagine that in the NFL?
Thanks for your comments. Molly says it is the most exciting thing she has ever done and the feelings of “love” are always there. She said that even when she was knocked down and had bruises for several days, she wanted to make sure that the girl that knocked her down knew that she still “loved” her. Great team effort!
@ Goatskull.. haha…No, I cannot imagine that in the NFL, or any other professional sport for that matter! I also cannot imagine a star player coming to a Youth Banquet as a keynote speaker, actually staying the whole night and then taking time to chit chat with the kids one on one..for FREE!! Matt Hawkins, the Captain of our USA 7’s team, has done just that…more than once. (To these kids this is the equivalent of Derek Jeter..okay we’re in San Diego…Adrian Gonzalez :) !! The feeling of community and the honor of giving back isn’t just talk within the rugby community, it is displayed from the very top. It is very special, indeed.
Yup. Not only is rugby a great game, it attracts great people who participate in it.
My first exposure to girls/women’s rugby was way back in the mid 90’s in the form of the daughter of then Chargers head coach Kevin Gilbride. Kelly was a Harvard grad, and played on the club rugby team there. Before that I had no idea that there were women’s rugby teams. And she definitely fit the mold described by Judi: Beautiful, feminine, and totally and completely NUTS. And tough as nails!
One time a group of us was playing flag football and she badly dislocated one of her fingers. Totally grotesque to see if you’re at all squeamish (which I’m not), and looked rather painful. Blood all over the place. But to her it was no big deal. She taped it up, shrugged it off, and tried to get back on the field to play. Totally crazy. I liked her a lot!
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Our son went to LMC college and played rugby for 3 yrs. We watched it for 3 yrs. and don’t understand all I know about it. This I know, exciting game to watch, 80 minutes of action. Best part was the keg of beer both teams shared after the game. I would have loved to play the game in my youth, as misspent as it was.
Anyone who’s never watched it before, do yourself a favor and Google it. The teamwork these guys (and gals) do together is amazing to watch.
Another interesting and informative read, Judi. Really enjoy your posts.
Thank you, Nancy.
Being a member of the Aztec family is truly something special. I am a member of the senior men’s club (the Old Aztecs) and have been involved with coaching in our youth program. Nothing makes me prouder than stopping by Dusty Rhodes Park on Thursday’s and seeing all of the Aztecs (boys and girls) who work so hard and take pride in the same jersey that I do. Awesome article, I really enjoyed reading it!
Thank you so very much. Judi
I love rugby so much. Best sport ever. The Aztecs create such a great community! Proud to be a part of it! (I am the girl with the blue letterman jacket in the top photo). Your grandma rocks Molly!
You have some great friends, Molly!
Sounds like a wonderful sport and a wonderful team! Almost like having second family (with none of the normal dysfunction)!
I’m so proud of Molly (and the rest of the girls)!
For the record – I was not only the first girl to play on the Pt. Loma Water Polo Team, but the first girl to play water polo in San Diego! We had to go to the school board and convince them to let me!
And, my middle daughter, I am just as proud of you as you are of Molly. That board meeting was not easy – and you handled it with aplomb and dignity. And…thank goodness, didn’t get hurt play water polo!